How To Win Love Back

How to win love back? Did you get mad with your broken relationship? Or are you frustration with the breakup? Then read the following article:

Do you want to win love back?  The key is allowing your ex to have a little bit of time to figure out what they want from the relationship.  Tim and Rhonda learned this from Tim’s friend Joe.

Rhonda stormed out of Tim’s apartment one day saying she never wanted to see him again.  Tim was stunned.  All he could think about was how to win love back. 

He called his buddy Joe and asked whether he should send flowers or candy.

“Neither,” Joe said.  “And don’t call, email, or text her either.”

Tim was stunned by this advice.  He wanted to win love back right away before Rhonda had a chance to “look around” and find someone better.

But Joe told Tim that giving Rhonda the space to “look around” was just what she needed.  There was a small chance that she would go forever, but the probability was that she would settle down and come back to him.  She must come to the conclusion that their relationship was special on her own terms.

Further, Joe advised, it would be bad if Tim looked too desperate.  This gave Rhonda the upper hand in many ways.  It would lead to further grand gestures in the future.  If he wanted to get the relationship back on track, Tim needed to give Rhonda space.
Tim and Rhonda both had a lot invested in the relationship.  They had been together 18 months and had even talked about marriage.  This was why it was such a blow to Tim when Rhonda walked out.

But Tim took Joe’s advice, as painful as it was, and waited for Rhonda to call.  It took her four days, but she finally contacted him.

The first thing she wanted to know was “why didn’t you call me?”  He told her “I was waiting for you to call.  I knew you needed space.”

He was right, and she knew it.  She actually appreciated the fact that he hadn’t called.  She knew that he had found a way to win love back.

As they talked about hwere their relationship had been and how to get it back on track, they discovered that one of the problems was that they had been crowding one another.  The thought of getting married had been suffocating.

So, they decided to back off.  They would still see each other exclusively, but they would make more time for friends and solo activities.  They wouldn’t talk about marriage again for six months.

Tim restrained himself from pursuing Rhonda when she needed space.  This allowed her to reevaluate her relationship with him on her own terms.

She initially thought that he would call her all the time.  She was actually surprised that he didn’t.  But, because he refrained from contacting her, she was able to see what her life was like without him in it.  And, it wasn’t as pleasant as she had imagined it would be.

So, if you’re determined to win love back, keep in mind that sometime what is needed is a little space.

Win Your Love Back The Example Of Katie And Brad

You can win your love back.  Let me give you an example.

Katie made a major mistake.  She saw Brad talking to her best friend Andrea and thought he was flirting with her.  Katie worked herself into a fury and broke up with Brad.

It turns out that he was really consulting Andrea on how to put together a surprise romantic Valentine’s date.  He was really hurt that Katie would think so little of him and didn’t want to have to do anything to do with her after that. 

You may think that you can not win your love back after such a situation.  But let me tell you what Katie did to get Brad back.

Brad wasn’t talking to her, so she couldn’t discuss the situation with him.  But she could write him a letter.  She got some nice paper and hand wrote an apology.  She admitted that she had flown off the handle.  She also told him what she liked about him and about the relationship.  Finally, she expressed gratitude for his thoughtfulness in planning a romantic date.

Then, she shut up.  She didn’t call, text or email him for a week.  By not pestering him, she gave him time to work through his emotions. 

After a week, she sent him a short and sweet “thinking of you” email.  She kept it casual. 

Brad was obviously nuts about Katie because he was willing to go to the trouble of impressing her on Valentine’s day.  But, he was also hurt.  Because Katie had apologized and given him time to work through his emotions, he was able to respond to the “thinking of you” email.

The night he got the email, he called Katie.  She tried to keep things light and fun.  Brad appreciated that.  So, he suggested they meet for coffee and Katie agreed.

Katie went out of her way to look like a million bucks.  She wore the earrings Brad had given her for Christmas and she put on the perfume that he liked so much. 

Katie decided that she would only talk about positive things.  She especially tried to bring fond memories into the conversation.  She also asked about his family because that would reinforce their shared history and closeness.

Brad appreciated this.  He loved Katie and didn’t want things to end.  But, he didn’t want a repeat of the situation either.  He needed to be reassured that their life together wouldn’t be filled with needless drama.  He also needed to know that talking to another woman wouldn’t set off fireworks.

The couple agreed that they would take the relationship to a less intense level.  They would really court each other again.  They would stop taking each other for granted.

A year later, Brad and Katie agree that the break up may have actually saved their relationship over the long haul.  While Katie initially flew off the handle, her calm handling of the situation afterward made it possible for them to move on.  She showed you can win your love back.

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