How do I get my ex girlfriend back? Basics

The good news is that it is definitely possible to win your ex girlfriend back, even if it currently may seem hopeless.

The "bad" news is that it will take some time under certain circumstances, to win your ex girlfriend back and you need the right strategy to do so.

Below we will more accurately address the question of the strategy to win your ex girlfriend back.

"How do I get my ex-girlfriend?"

Here are the three steps that are very effective to increase your chances:


Step 1: Win Again a clear head

If you still feel the pain of separation, you should first give some time to feel better. Then you are in the best shape to successfully win your ex girlfriend back.

Make the things you care about the most and what helps you. This can be: long walks, meditation, movies, music, or maybe even a form of therapy or spiritual quest.

They say, "Tears cleanse the soul" and that is definitely true after a breakup. It is a difficult time and may feel terrible.

To get there faster, it is best to allow yourself to feel the sorrow and the pain of separation. Yes, it feels uncomfortable, but it is much better than the pain displace - which anyway does not work and only prolongs the healing process.

Refer to process our main article on separation and overcome the pain of separation.

The better you do, the more clearly you will see your situation and do not make these 7 common mistakes when you try to win your ex girlfriend back.


Step 2: Why do you want your ex-girlfriend?

Now you should ask yourself why you want to win your ex girlfriend back and whether your ex girlfriend is really good for you.

Be as honest as possible with themselves. It can save you a lot of extra trouble and pain in the future.

Here is our main article on this subject is: If you try to get your ex-partner to win back?

If you are convinced that the separation was a mistake, then you can start to prepare a good strategy to win your ex girlfriend back.


Step 3: Your strategy

We have already looked at the most common mistakes and what NOT to do to win your ex girlfriend back. Let us look at now, what you can do to win your ex girlfriend back.

You need a good strategy.

You can either create such a strategy yourself or you can rely on strategies that have been tested by thousands. Such strategies can be found for example in the guide "Ex Back Win" by the consultant team and in the "Ex Back guidebook" by John Alexander.

Every relationship is different and therefore you will need to adjust your strategy to win your girlfriend back.

In preparing your strategy, you should note two things in particular:

     the reason for the separation and
     how long the relationship lasted with your ex-girlfriend.

The length of the relationship is important to decide how much time you have to win your ex girlfriend back.

So if you had a longer relationship, then you have more time to win your ex girlfriend back. If your relationship has lasted but a few months, then it would be very helpful if you give your ex-girlfriend first few months.

The reason for the separation is important in deciding which strategy is the best for you. If you were too clingy example, before or after the separation, then you should give it as a first step more freedom to win your ex girlfriend back.

On the other hand, if you do not have enough given your ex-girlfriend before separation attention, then you must be active in order to win your girlfriend back.