There are a lot easier part, some complex psychological tricks that you can use in recovering his ex-partner. Also, if there is no guarantee of a successful recapture, can increase the chance of success greatly with the help of psychology in many cases.
The goal of all psychological tricks is to achieve a change in the "head" of the ex-partner:
The ex-partner to begin to think of you often and more regularly again.
He should not feel any negative but positive feelings when in contact with you.
He is said to you and to contact you from time to time initially and later missed a day.
He should again fall in love with you!
The first three objectives are of course basically sub-goals that will help you achieve the fourth goal, the love of your ex-partner.
The two most basic psychological concepts for recovering the ex-partner are the following:
Closeness and distance
loss of control
The concept of proximity and distance helps to achieve a loss of control when ex-partner.
1. closeness and distance
Put simply, the man desires always the most, what he can not have and does all that he can access to day-to-day problems, for granted.
For example, virtually everyone has a coffee maker at home, which he used diligently every morning. Accordingly missing and also one wishes no coffee, it is indeed every morning as a matter of course available. If your coffee but suddenly gives up the ghost, and you just do not have time or money for a new one, you will miss your coffee honestly.
This admittedly very trivial example can be directly transferred to interpersonal relationships. If you chase your ex-partner, he will never feel the desire to hear from you, or to participate again in your life.
But not only that: Just after a separation, the ex-partner wishes distance. Also, if the separation is amicable expired and you may even have agreed a friendship that does not mean that you should have contact with your / m Ex almost daily. On the contrary, your ex-partner feel that you still have feelings for him, which he currently not reciprocated and therefore wants a certain amount of distance. No one feels comfortable going to have close contact with someone who harbors feelings for one that can not be returned.
The rules have changed name. While your ex-partner has in turn responded to your request to close to close, he now responds differently to too much close your / e ex reacts with more distance.
So let's please not that the relationship between proximity and distance between you and your / m ex even further out of balance, but adjust the balance as soon as possible (again) ago. Right now you can, upon separation situation, only limited or no contact with your / m ex have.
2. Loss of control
Everyone wants to decide his own life. Nobody likes depends on the benevolence or the decisions of others.
This is also you and your ex-partner that way. While you are in your relationship, formerly (more or less) equally and jointly decided about many things, your ex-partner now has all the power of decision "usurped" and has become the sole decision. He broke up with you without voting separation with you or discuss. No, he's all alone like because he currently not enough feel affection and love for you to separate decision. The "air out" as the saying goes.
Do not know if your ex-partner will respond to your messages, whether he wants (again) to take in the future with you and whether you will again get a second chance. All of these things depend entirely on your / m Ex. Your ex-spouse is against it in a completely different situation: He knows that you will respond to his messages that you want to meet with him and that you would not hesitate to give him a second chance. He has no reason to have any doubts.
Your ex-partner so controlled the situation fully. He not only controlled the situation, but also you and your behavior. Most people have almost everything stand and lie and fulfill your former great love every wish without hesitation. They say what the or hear the explosion would like to say from all other dates when the ex-partner had just time for a meeting, make love confessions and beg and plead sometimes even matter to be back a couple.
A large part of your current turmoil and your constant urge to have to contact your / n ex in any form, is caused by the loss of control of your situation. While you look worried, troubled and full of hope again and again, if you have received a message or a call from your ex-partner, he sits quietly at work or at home, without wasting a thought to you.
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