Look before you leap.
You go to practical tip, one must be different if you were to leave or have left themselves.
1. I was leaving and want to go back.
If the separation still fresh, outweighs the desire, hope and ardent desire to save the relationship. The shock is simply too low and you want to and can not accept, especially the relationship end. Most separations come for the partner, who will leave suddenly. The Abandoned so had no chance to make a change brought about or sit during the relationship still deals with the reasons of failure. It is through this abrupt end and the sudden stop, the head will only back actually.
Yesterday and today woke up together forever alone?
By using full braking "separation" are the whole idea in the past. Yesterday's future, today is past. Everything seems irretrievably lost. One thinks of a smile, a smell, gestures, facial expressions, moments, holidays and situation in which everything was perfect. A few days ago the ex-spouse still has the magic words "I love you" is said and now he suddenly wants to end the relationship or have you already completed? We are still woke up together yesterday and now I must lie here alone?
Back, please quickly!
But NO. First of all, we must realize that we still find ourselves as described above, in the shock of separation. Our thoughts are thereby prevented clear that we are hazardous to a throne, where he mostly does not belong.
We only see the good side
While we are brooding and crying in bed, we think even on the bad side of the relationship, but we give this thought no weight. First, we want to bring the old state. So bad it could not have been so, even if we had never been apart? Everyone has a limit suffering and when this limit is not reached, then you are indeed often sad and unhappy but feels paralyzed to act. In order to justify staying, we see in such cases usually only the good side of the relationship.
A relationship end has a reason
Even if you do not want to have true, everyone has the right to end a relationship. For lack of love also the ex partner can not do anything. The most common reason for separation is lack of love for the rest. Because you is what makes pondering the former. It is what the dispute concerns and lack of future prospects only brings the ball rolling. If the partner is the right one, it usually runs by itself. Even if no separation reasons sees when looking back, they were for the explosion there.
Ask yourself: is the mere fact that the ex partner no longer wants, not reason enough to end the relationship?
Up to the time at which ends the relationship, usually take months and years. For those who want to go in this time the separation intentions "never clear." Some days he wants to go. Then come back phases of hope. After a few weeks but is mostly a dissatisfaction. The first thought for separation is like a seed that has been sown and slowly begins to beat his roots. This continues until the first thought of this desire has grown, the relationship needs to close. Uncertainty to certainty. Up to the time of the debate pass here, as I said, many months or even years. You, as the partner who stays behind, knowing nothing of this. As a result, you have no chance to change anything. A forum post that might help you at this point is: Love is fleeting?
Why so many words?
To help you understand that you are "nothing" can be used for separation. They had no chance, because your ex-partner has given you a chance. This saves you even think about whether you could have done something. Now we come to the main part.
Should we ever return to the ex?
So far, we wanted to make clear to you that the blame for the relationship end is not just up to you, because it takes two to tango. Even the ex partner bears guilt and was not easy .. Lack end of love and lack of future prospects are reason enough. But no one can do something. Also, you would have to go as the former. It is always important, how to walk. Through a relationship one runs a responsibility and therefore one is also committed to accompany the ex-partner for a while and give it possible answers to questions. Unfortunately, that most people see differently, or you lack experience. Thus, the lovelorn forum is full of people who are looking for answers to questions.
To clarify the question of whether we are ever to the ex partner back, we have to define the points which, although feel intense, but would not be good motivation for a new start first.
Poor and intense feelings masquerading as love
You need to know that bad and intense feelings often disguised as love. that is, You think you love your partner up to the end of days, but basically it's just the fear of being alone, longing for a return, the hope for a common future, anxiety in my stomach, anxiety, former could be a new relationship have etc. These feelings make your relationship end so hard. They make you believe that the relationship was perfect and that there was no reason for separation, but that's not true.
We conclude, if you are jealous, then wait until even know if this jealousy is ever justified. Maybe your ex partner has anyone new and after a while you are even glad that the relationship has a quiet end. The most insidious feeling is the fear of being alone. It has become so accustomed to the partner that you can not imagine to live a life alone. Keep therefore after a breakup once held. Check carefully whether the partner was really as we see Him. You will see after a few weeks now, you will see a deeper meaning in the separation. You get another chance to find themselves and to be closer to himself.
Already Osho has said that partners can not meet as two beggars who ask for love and recognition. You must be like two kings. Rich in experience and knowledge. If you can not be alone, you can not perform long-term relationship.
degree:
If you are affected in the current phase of fear, jealousy, sorrow, worries and fears, then that is not good companion to answer the question of whether you want to win back ex-partners. Wait once from a few days and weeks. Do not rush. Your inner lake is still too rough and thus you can not see the bottom of the soil. Let the dirt and large chunks fall to the ground and at some point you can see the bottom of the lake. If your ex still in the same light as seen at the beginning of the separation, then read the topics, how do I get my ex back. Consider also the one who is left, can and should do nothing. You have about a possible new beginning no violence.
2. I have to leave and want to go back now
There is not much to say as to the first on this second point. You know the reason for your separation best. This will also know whether the weight that you have given to this reason, still correct or if you made a wrong decision. To end a relationship is not easy and many people forget relying party, that the person who's, has longings and grieving. But sometimes it just went no further. So if you have separated and now want to return, then you should express your intentions only if you are really 100% sure. Your partner has suffered more from the separation and possibly only alleviate this pain, would be the wrong motive.
Another false motives to go to the ex back if you have already left him.
compassion
Your ex mourns and do not bear this grief? Sorry, but you have to go through it. Your compassion in all honor, let your ex this time of grief. Only then can he be happy again. You may offer your ex partner but, to contact us with any questions or easy for him to be there, if he accepts your help. Keep to the very back, so no hopes germinate.
The relying party is doing well and you do not understand?
You have ended the relationship, but your ex is doing well? How can this be without me Ex. I thought he loved me? If you creep up as a feeling, then you are better pleased that your ex does it so easily. Would be worse if he would be sad and that you sometime hates!
Ex has a new relationship?
You have separated yourself and your former partner has already a new relationship? They are jealous and want to come back? Error! Remember that you are gone for good reason. Look forward to the new relationship your ex partner.
Right motives to start a new attempt
Cheated and now back?
You have betrayed your partner and his love are but are safe? Then you fight. Someone to cheat does not necessarily mean that no more love exists. If you have made a mistake, then you are fighting for your partner. In this context, we also recommend the article on "How do I let go?".
Problems with itself
Do you have problems with themselves and have z. B. ended the relationship because of a fear of relationships? Then you talk with your partner. Tell Him all the fears and concerns. If he so wants to be like him, then show your love and relationship is even better.
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